Marriage is something common in everyone’s life after they reach certain age. Marriage does more than changing people’s living situation and daily routines.
Half of all marriages end in divorce. Worse yet, the number of marriages on shaky ground are even higher. Thus, it is important for you to get to know these things before you get married!
Recently, there is tweet that went viral with more than 61K retweets and 220K likes about the things you should know before getting married on Twitter.
The following are the things you should know before considering to get married!
1. Talk about DEBT
First and foremost, know about your future spouse’s debt details if you don’t want debt collectors to bang your doors because they haven’t paid their debt or loan back.
2. FULLY and WILLINGLY committing to one another.
If your future partner is saying, “im not sure” and “what if’s” and “its not the right time”,then it’s time to call it off. What is cheating? Entanglements? Define your breaks? Breakups? Love is not what keeps relationships going. An active commitment to love, despite the downfalls, keeps it going. Get out the princess-king happily ever after mindset and you’ll be fine. You are either in or you’re out.
3. Finding out when or how many kids your spouse wants.
You may or may not know if your partner wants kids before marriage. This is important as your partner might be thinking of adoption or they may be infertile. You never know until you find out but do it before getting married.
4. Seek medical help or informed professional knowledge for your partner and yourself.
Get checked. Keep those tests up to date and find ways to do so even within the marriage.
5. Talk about your 5-10 year timeline regarding career, education, finances and savings.
How do you intend on splitting bills? Gender roles? Taking the parents in during old age? Are they willing to relocate and take care of the expenses together with you? How much is your intended salaries? Is it sustainable? Apartment? House? Condos? You don’t want to be the only one struggling to bare with the expenses.
6. Levels of religiosity.
Get to know our future partner’s openness to growth. Do you share fundamental core beliefs about life? Very important.
7. Anger managements issues.
Get to know if your partner is in therapy for anger issues or taking it out on others? Seek help, because it will destruct you and the future and the children if you don’t.
Does your energy match with your future spouse? You decide. Follow your guts.
It may seem like a small problem but small things eventually add up. Make sure your expectations match one another to full comfort.
10. Sexual compatibility.
You need to be on the same playing field. Find out consent wise, willingness to try things, traumas and many more about your future partner.
11. Opposite gender boundaries.
Set what’s okay. What’s not okay. Is hugs or handshakes okay with your partner? I know it sounds tribal and trust should be there but you’d be surprised what people’s boundaries are. Better to know than not know if you don’t want to regret later on. Jealousy is real.
12. Social media boundaries.
Believe it or not, people will break up over this. Some prefer privacy. Some not. Get on the same page or you’ll be clowning on one another.
13. Physical and verbal abuse.
What is and isn’t considered abusive language and decorum? Seek help, please. Professionals can always step in.
14. Talk about your and your spouse’s personal wishes.
What are your dying wishes? Burial proceedings? What if one of you becomes paralyzed? God parents? Uncertain events? Death? Speak it. Speak on all of it.
▼ Netizens said this thread was helpful and they’ll definitely follow these useful tips before planning for marriage. Some also shared about their struggle of not knowing this earlier~
Marriage is something important and precious in everyone’s life! Think and decide before getting yourself into this lifetime commitment!
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