Parenting is tough! We always wonder how to teach our kids? How to raise a perfect eating, well-behaved, polite, selfless, caring little angels?
A Facebook page MommyBaby sharing a post, where under the following 8 scenarios if a mother react like THIS! the children’s EQ will be 8 times higher! The post went viral with more than 7,000 shares. Let’s see whether the mum(s) think it works?!
Scenario ① ：Not sleeping at night
❌ It’s so late! Why are you still playing? I have been telling you many times, quickly go sleep now!
✔ 5 more minutes to sleeping time, you want brush your teeth first or story time first?
Hint: Maybe kids are not very sleepy yet. Instead of sleeping, he/she probably thinking to do some other things! So, give them options, then only sleep it’s way better than instructed them to go to bed.
▼ Most mum said: It doesn’t work! ” Telling story, she still want to sleep i doubt?”,” My kid will say i want to play”,” After my son is 2+ he tell me straight he do’t want to sleep”
▼ Some mum sharing their way ,” You pick 10pm or 10.05pm?”, ” Just give them options, sleep or rotan(cane)? this method need 1 min to work”, ” 5 mins to sleeping time, Options: i cane you or i throw the phone?”
One netizen also seconded and said, ” This is the way la..still telling story meh?!”
Scenario ② ：Dilly-dally when heading out
❌ Faster! Can you hear? Why so slow everyday?
✔ 15 more minutes to go out, you want to wear your cloth now? or hold it in your arm.
Hint: Kids don’t like to be rush. The more you rush them, the more they do not want to do it. So, give them option then they will know what to do next.
▼ But, what happened in real life,” OK, you walk there, bye!”,” We are heading out in 15 mins, If you haven’t packed your things then we are not going.”, ” Going out, the kids are faster than me”
Scenario ③ ：Accidentally damaged something
❌ Asked you to be careful and don’t play with it. We are not going to buy it next time!
✔ Never mind, after this experience i believed we won’t break it next time. Let’s see whether we can fix it together.
Hint: When the kid make a mistake accidentally, they will be afraid scolded by the mum. If the mum can try to understand them, it will help the kids to learn from the mistake.
▼ Some mum shared in real life, they will be telling the kids,” You break it and have to responsible, this month no pocket money.”, ” Pay with your ang pao money”. One said,” Kid will be asking, what is ” experience”?
Scenario ④ ：Not willing to share toys
❌ She is young than you, let her play first.
✔ You play 10 mins, then the small girl play 10 mins the you exchange ok
Hint: For their own things, kids normally have a very strong ownership. Thus, they tend to refuse to share. But somehow, we should let the kids try sharing their toys and enjoy the fun of sharing.
▼ However some mummy tried but it doesn’t work. let’s see what they said:
” The problem is both my kids 8 and 3yo never listen!”
” Even the brother willing to play 10 mins and let sister play, if only sister willing to wait for 10 mins~”
“Everybody no need to play, only mummy play”
Scenario ⑤ ：Not a ideal mum
❌ What is wrong with you kiddy? not bothering people? i’m talking to you! You hear me?
✔ Baby, are you feeling unwell? need my help?
Hint: Sometimes, kids just want to be alone. So as a mum, we don’t blamed them in the first place. Try to ask them whether they need help and share your concern then only they will be sharing their secret with you in future.
▼ In real life, Mum:” Am i talking to the wall?”
Scenario ⑥ ：Trying to solve problem with tears
❌ Cry cry cry! Everything also cry, it won’t help! I don’t want you anymore if you cry again!
✔ No rush, let see how to solve the problem
Hint: Sometimes, crying is because they don’t know how to express their feeling. Thus, crying to ask for help from adults. For example, they cried when their water gun doesn’t work. So, we just teach them how to refill water instead. In this case they are not crying anymore and also learned how to refill water for their water gun.
▼ ” Normally those crying are below 7yo. If you are telling them this they will only ask you : What is solve? why do we need to solve?”
” Mum: Cry la! Cry until 10 houses can hear you”
One said the idea of giving option works on her kid,” Mine crying because he can’t buttoned his cloth. I ask him not to cry and try on the next button an he managed to do it”
Scenario ⑦ ：When kids like to say ” NO”
❌ It’s for your own good so you cannot say NO!
✔ Can i know why are you saying “NO”, then i will consider whether to accept it.
Hint: When kid are around 2 yo. They start to have their own thought and wanted to make their own decision, parents should spend some times to understand their thoughts.
▼Probably this is happening in most Malaysian family. Mum said,” I count to 3″. netizen also agreed with her and said that’s the most effective way.
Scenario ⑧ ：Lastly, when kids are emotional..
❌ Do not lose your cool and be emotional with your kids
✔ Kid, Mum can see you are angry, what’s wrong?
✔ Who make my baby sad? Tell me, i want to know.
✔ Mum can see you are sad today? Can you tell me what make you sad?
▼ This seems like doesn’t work for most mother,” Useless! I’m talking like this to my kid and end up i felt myself so low.”, ” Those kids who listen to their mum won’t be emotional.”
One mum sharing a scenario where her kid throw a major tantrum in the mall because parents refused to buy toys.
Mum: Bye bye, i go first. ( Then hide somewhere to see the joker)
▼ But the reality is, parenting is no walk in the park.
” Slap~ can solve everything”
” You want to get caned now or 5 minutes later?”
One sharing 3yo boy showering, Mum: you want to wash body or head first?
Son: Done showering! Mum: Apa macam (So how)?
In fact, every child is different! There’s no one size fits all guide for raising kids. Despite of tough times, we also have good times! Make the good days’ count so you have something to help get you through those bad days!
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